Respect isn’t something you grab at the entrance. It’s something you earn. Treat people the way you want to be treated. You cannot force people to Respect you just because you think you deserve it. People are not compelled to respect and love everyone just because they exist. You gotta do more than just exist.
Why the respect you so crave is ambiguous? Why you're not being noticed? Why your presence is not highly solicited? Why people walk past you and doesn't even acknowledge you?
Well, let me burst the bubble on you. Respect is not merely a certificate that you're handed over on your presence. It's not something you get served on arrival. Respect, my dear readers is earned.
You think people disrespect you? They don't value your opinion or ignore your presence. This is because you've got it all wrong.
We're here to present the plot twist.
- Practice what you preach
We’re all familiar with the saying "Actions speak louder than words". Walk your talk.
You’re not required to climb mountains or travel the world or be a superhero to prove your worth.
You have to show professionalism in your work environment. Dress properly, complete your work within given deadline and maintain a healthy relationship with everyone in your workspace. - Accountability
Actions come with consequences. Hold yourself accountable for both your actions and words. If you make mistakes and fail to meet your deadline. Don’t come with dust excuses after promising stars and moon. This is the point where you lose your respect and charm. - Listen Actively
Listen carefully to what the other person has to say. Value your companion’s opinion. Make them feel important. If someone is talking about weather change don’t answer back with your favourite games and hobbies. All these attributes collectively participate in your downfall. - Respect boundaries
Don’t invade someone’s privacy or push them in uncomfortable positions. Give space to people, make them comfortable. Try to find out what they are okay with talking about or sharing with.
As we've talked about others and how to earn their respect and love, what is the most important factor to present yourself with grace in every room you walk into? Well we all know that.
- Respect Yourself First
Change starts from home. If you want people to Respect you. You first need to Respect yourself. Self-respect is the most important thing.
Self respect is setting your boundaries and limitations. Don’t ever settle for less than you deserve. You don’t have to dive right into the every next opportunity just because you want people to Respect you and you want to be counted in worldly treasure.
Your "No" should mean "No". Know your worth. Don't allow anyone to let you down. Carry yourself with grace. Treat yourself with kindness, don't go very hard on yourself. It is not necessary to please everyone you walk into.
- Self-esteem
Self-respect is directly linked to self-esteem. When you know you’re worthy, you have a positive self image and self worth which proves to be a important aspect in your self esteem. - Empowerment
Self respect contributes toward empowerment. You stand up for yourself, value your own opinion and advocate for your rights in a reputable manner.
SUMMATION
So, did you get my point? Making people respect you is not a world war 3. You just need to take these baby steps and it will eventually lead you where you want to be.
Your actions, attitude and attributes need to be looked after by your very own self. Self perception is the key.
"When we treat people merely as they are, they will remain as they are. When we treat them as they were what they should be, they will become what the should be." -Thomas S.Monson
Respect is a two way road. Do good and good will come to you.
